Making Sense of it All

When times are uncertain, difficult, fearful, full of change,
they become the perfect place to deepen the practice of awakening.

I, like many Americans, have been grappling with the results of the presidential election. My heart is full of mixed emotions. I told my daughters that I cast my vote for them, but when they asked me who won this morning, it was hard to get the words out.

We are all trying to process what happened and how we go from here. I know that all is not lost. We can still make a difference in our communities. We can still be kind to others and treat people with differing opinions with respect.

A friend of mine posted this lovely article by Jack Kornfield. I see it as a gift that I must share to pay it forward. I hope you will do the same.

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Be The Includers

I read this article this morning about how we can raise kind girls instead of mean girls. I encourage you to read it, especially if you’re a parent of daughters.

With school about to start and class lists just released, I found so much truth and grace in what Lisa McCrohan wrote about. My husband and I were excited to see which students would be in class with our twin daughters. I hate to admit this but we found ourselves checking for any mean girls.

Like Lisa, we have endeavored to teach our girls to be includers. My husband and I each suffered our own stories of being bullied because we didn’t conform to normalcy. Being twins, my girls are already singled out. They are also among the tallest students. At twelve, all you want to do is fit in.

Our daughters have struggled with building friendships because there is so much competition. Teaching them about the care and feeding of friendships has been challenging. We take so much for granted when it comes to these relationships. As adults we intuitively know what to do most of the time. Children don’t.

We’ve spent a lot of time this summer coaching our girls on how to develop and sustain friends. We encourage them to check in with their friends just to say hi and let them know they’re being thought of. We teach inclusion rather than exclusion. The rewards are starting to come in as our daughters are being included in more social activities.

I have a good feeling that 7th grade will be a wonderful experience.

What I Have Learned

I started this blog in April of this year and just reached the 100th follower this week (thank you!). I didn’t know what to expect when I began this journey, but I have learned a few things:

  • I found a home among some incredibly talented, soulful writers and human beings.
  • I do have something to say and people like it.
  • Not everyone gets poetry, but everyone here sure does!
  • We all have a story to tell, experiences to share, feelings to express.
  • Connecting with others who share your passion for words is a gift.

So thank you for allowing me to share my stories with you and for welcoming me into this community. It feels good to be here.