I read this article this morning about how we can raise kind girls instead of mean girls. I encourage you to read it, especially if you’re a parent of daughters.
With school about to start and class lists just released, I found so much truth and grace in what Lisa McCrohan wrote about. My husband and I were excited to see which students would be in class with our twin daughters. I hate to admit this but we found ourselves checking for any mean girls.
Like Lisa, we have endeavored to teach our girls to be includers. My husband and I each suffered our own stories of being bullied because we didn’t conform to normalcy. Being twins, my girls are already singled out. They are also among the tallest students. At twelve, all you want to do is fit in.
Our daughters have struggled with building friendships because there is so much competition. Teaching them about the care and feeding of friendships has been challenging. We take so much for granted when it comes to these relationships. As adults we intuitively know what to do most of the time. Children don’t.
We’ve spent a lot of time this summer coaching our girls on how to develop and sustain friends. We encourage them to check in with their friends just to say hi and let them know they’re being thought of. We teach inclusion rather than exclusion. The rewards are starting to come in as our daughters are being included in more social activities.
I have a good feeling that 7th grade will be a wonderful experience.